Are you tired of those “New Years Resolutions” becoming a quick post on social media but never actually happening? Sometimes all you need to do is to set realistic goals for yourself. Most of the time individuals set their goals too high and get discouraged if they do not see results. If you set a pace at which to increase your goal (for example, once a month), then you are more likely to surpass your original goal.
Some of the most common resolutions are to exercise more, eat healthier, save more money, and most importantly spend more quality time with your family. In retrospect, these habits seem pretty easy to accomplish right? So why are they so hard to maintain?
Here are some reasons why these goals don’t work. Setting a goal needs to be more specific. A generic statement saying ” I want to exercise more” only takes you to the gym without any idea of what to do. You should set specific goals targeting a certain area that you want to tone, strengthen, or slim down. This creates a schedule of what you need to do and how you need to do it. If you just show up to the gym and hop on the treadmill every day, you might get bored or even make excuses why you don’t need to go. Also, if you try to target everything all in one visit, your results may very at a slower pace and could potentially harm you.
It’s the same idea for trying to eat healthier. It’s common to see someone cut out all processed food and get stuck with eating salads every day. Again, this is not a good idea because there is no variety in your diet and you could be missing out on other nutrients that our body needs. Moreover, when you finally get fed up with these meals, you are likely to turn to the foods you tried so hard to avoid. An easy solution to this problem is to plan out your meals with a variety of food prepared in various ways. Most things are okay in moderation. If you give this method a try, you will be surprised at how easy it is to make this a daily habit.
The next goal seems pretty self-explanatory. If you save more money, you will have more money in the bank. Saving money is easier said than done. Again, setting the goal to save money is too generic. Many times when trying to save money, we don’t know what to cut back on. Justifying everything we spend is easy but making the realization that we overspend is not. The easiest way to begin saving money is to set a budget for all your expenses. This will help you determine what you need rather than what you want. Go through your fridge and take a look at what foods are expired or unused, then ask yourself if that is something I really needed. Most times that answer is simple. No. Now do the same thing for your closet, storage room, and even bathroom cabinets. You will be surprised with the amount of stuff that goes unused. Now, once you have done that, make a realistic budget on what you can spend on things like eating out, entertainment, shopping, etc…
Now, this last goal may seem easy to do but can sometimes be the hardest of all. Do you ever come home from work and just throw the tv on for the rest of the night? Even if your loved ones are there with you, that’s not necessarily “quality time”. If you start getting into this habit of just being around each other and not actually talking to one another, you may find it hard to tell the difference. But there is an easy solution to change this habit. If you have a goal for your family to be happier and healthier you can have more quality time as a family while maintaining your personal goal. Making meals as a family is a perfect way to save money, eat healthier, and spending quality time with one another. Try teaching the kids how to cook and have everyone participate with clean up while playing some music. Other great family activities include going to the park, hiking, skiing, boarding, biking, swimming, or even something as simple as game night. If you set a day once a week to have some sort of family activity, you will realize that the goal was really to create a better relationship with the ones you love.